Bob Marley Once Said

Bob Marley once said:

“You may not be her first, 

her last, or her only. 

She loved before

she may love again. 

But if she loves you now, 

what else matters?

She’s not perfect—you aren’t either, 

and the two of you may never be perfect together 

but if she can make you laugh, 

cause you to think twice, 

and admit to being human and making mistakes, 

hold onto her and give her the most you can. 

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, 

but she will give you a part of her 

that she knows you can break—her heart. 

So don’t hurt her, 

don’t change her, 

don’t analyze and 

don’t expect more than she can give. 

Smile when she makes you happy, 

let her know when she makes you mad, 

and miss her when she’s not there.

Love with your whole being when you receive love.

Because there are no perfect girls, but there will always be a girl who is perfect for you..” ❤️

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Loving Someone Who Loves Someone Else

Love is blessing of God and unfortunately everyone is not lucky to get this blessing. If you love someone who loves someone else, you are not alone because every second a couple is facing this situation.

It is very hard to letting go your love for someone else just because he/she loves to any other person. It is common in this modern age especially in youth where relationships are changes at every moment. Mostly college/University lovers think their temporary crush is true love but other partner refuses to accept because of his/her love for someone else.

Well, luckily I have this blog where I can literally write anything and hide from the world.

Memories

Just a week or two I came to know the she is interested in someone else (yeah, even after pursuing for almost a year or so!) But still thinking about it is hurtful. You play nice you try and change for what she wants but still you don’t meet her criteria, you talk day in day out, but still you don’t. She/He is all you want.

I didn’t think it would hurt actually but it does, slightly.

Anyway, as I said, she is everything a person would want or want to be. Loving someone doesn’t specifically mean that they have to give you the same thing back. Come on! It is not about give and take, its about if both of you are really having a mutual feeling about each other.

Moreover, I believe, more than wanting her, I respect her and her happiness and this must be enough for the person who has feelings towards someone.

So Tried talking out with my Foster Mum, who I really happen to be sharing a lot with of late and very open, and she told me that:

  1. If you think your love is true, give it sometime because it is better to live with the fact that she is not into you, accept then give yourself some time.
  2. Keep your friendship with your lover because friendship is long lasting than any love. Am working to be her Friend without makasiriko.
  3. Be loyal with your friendship and try to realize him/her about your stand and how the rejection made you feel, again no makasiriko

She is a gift to the world that’s all I can say.

Lakini Otile Brown Pia aliimba Anayekupenda Haumpendi Anapenda Mwingine anayependa Mwingine. Anyway ni hayo tu kwa sasa.

Life Lessons of 2018

The Year 2018 was that Year that So many People Had a lessons about Who to keep and who to cross over 2019 with.

Its also the year I decided to be Single😂.

So Many Lessons on Friendship, So many Relationships were ended while others were build, Investments and Money Matters took over.

People Got dissapointed, others learnt some very valuable life lessons.
It also the year that Mental Awareness was a Topic and the Narrative of Peace of Mind too Over.
Societal pressure is what Has made people realise so many things that Some can be avoided by Simply Living beyond your means and Mostly Loving Yourself and Minding Your Business.
So Today I have Highlighted some of ways that One can Try and follow so that they dont repeat the regrets of the previous years or even they eye opening Year Which most people say was 2018.
Wealth is created slowly.
Save one-tenth, live below your means, minimize expenses, invest and make your money multiply.

Only invest in the fields you know something about.
An alternative way is to have an expert you can trust, otherwise, your investment will turn into a very expensive lesson.

You don’t know what you don’t know.
Acknowledge that you are blind and there is so much more to learn. Allow yourself to be a no one and observe, listen, you might open up your eyes finally and see what you don’t know.

You need to take action and do it fast.
There are so many things you want to analyze and try and hypothesize but nothing matters until you take action. Executed 80% solution is better than perfect 100% solution that never leaves your head.

Your path will change and that is okay.
What fired you up last year might be completely boring this year. Don’t stick to it just to be consistent. You have the right to leave the path you’re on and go toward a new direction. The clock is ticking and time is against you.

You’re not entitled to anything.
It’s hard to realize and face the truth that what was given to you can be taken away at any time. In most cases, it will make you very angry and will cause a lot of pain. Stop asking why me, start asking what’s next?

Nothing is permanent.
The only constant is change. Move fast, take as much as you can and don’t get angry when things change. Your job is to adapt and respond in a way that doesn’t alienate your core value and philosophy in life.

You’re in the maze.
Some people figure out it sooner, some later. Your job is to figure out. There are lots of dead-ends and you have to take a lot of steps back. You may get a sense of fake progress to just only face another wall and need to go back to square one. Not all progress is visible. For you, it may take longer than other people but you’ll solve it. Keep moving.

It’s not your job to take action for other people.
I know you want good for your family, friends and loved ones but only they can take action to improve their lives. Your job is to plant the seed of the change, support their thinking, fears and beliefs and be there when they’re ready. Don’t take it personally, don’t force it.

The most important work sometimes takes less than you think.
Starting up a business takes less than a week. Creating yearly content plan takes an hour. Defining a clear goal takes less than a minute. Choosing to change your lifestyle takes split second. Just because it doesn’t take long it doesn’t mean it’s not valuable.

Everything you do has an intention.
Your job is to set these intentions. Most of the things you do are not in your conscious control. You act on your fears, insecurities, doubts and other subconscious messages that you are not aware of. You’ll try to justify these decisions but that’s just fooling yourself. Set as many intentions as possible and see how that changes things.

You already are who you want to be.
You’re an actor, writer, singer, entrepreneur, athlete, artist, photographer, traveler, coach, friend, and lover. You just need to do your job and carve it out. What you want is already inside of you. Let it out. Daily.

Allow yourself to be a beginner.
Give yourself a permission to suck. You owe it to yourself. Create your worst work ever. Show it to people and see how it’s being thrown out of the window. Hear people say it’s the worst thing they’ve ever seen. Once you do that, there’s nowhere to go but up.

Don’t take it personally.
Whatever that is, an opinion, comment, feedback, insult. If people talk bad about you they’re spreading their negativity. If you’ve been fired off your job, it’s not because you’re bad, it’s because you are not needed anymore if you broke up with your partner, it’s not because you’re bad, it’s just not the right fit.

You’re not the victim unless you choose to be.
There are horrible, inhumane conditions and circumstances. But only you define how you operate in these circumstances. Don’t be a victim, don’t let others determine how your story ends. In the words of Theodore Roosevelt, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

Living minimally doesn’t mean having less.
It means having less of more. Buying fewer clothes you kinda like allows you to buy more of the clothes you love, spending less on low-quality products allows you to buy more of high-quality products. Having fewer things lets you appreciate more the things you have. If you’re not happy with what you have now, you’ll never be happy.

Simplify your life.
It’s always easy to add something. Another color to your website, a new shirt to your wardrobe, another app to your smartphone, another notebook, gadget, feature, newsletter, book. It all creates mental fog and complexity in life. Simplify your life. Your decisions, environment, work, relationships. It’s about taking things away that creates beauty. In the words of Antoine de Saint-Exupery, “Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.”

You don’t have to run long and lift heavy to be healthy.
Your life becomes slower and more sedentary due to the comfort technology has created. Your job is to take care of your body and health. It doesn’t have to be an intense CrossFit class or exhausting 2-hour run. It has to be something you enjoy doing, it has to be effortless yet enjoyable. Walk to your office, take walking meetings, make fun of taking stairs, get your coffee in a new cafe, take a different route home.

Don’t default to happiness.
Happiness is not constant, it’s an emotion. You can’t control emotions, you can only notice and acknowledge them. What you can do is default to your purpose. Choose something worth suffering for because inevitably you’ll have to suffer in life. Defaulting to purpose makes suffering more bearable and as a byproduct, you’ll get your happiness.

What you surround yourself with matters.
Surround yourself with better people, food, information, energy, diversity, and ideals. You’re only as strong as the environment around you. If you surround yourself with champions, movers and shakers, healthy, hardworking, honest and knowledgeable people, you’ll become one too. It’s easy to eat healthy when the healthy restaurant and organic market is next door.

Notice the little things.
Notice how people thank you, notice waiter’s new haircut, notice how happy someone feels, notice how bad someone feels, notice how your friend progressed on her weight loss journey, notice how your barista honors her craft, notice how your mom prepares dinner, notice how a stranger opens up a door for another stranger, notice how driver stops in the middle of the street to let young mother cross the street with her children, notice all these little acts of kindness. It’s everywhere and it’s beautiful. It needs more attention.

Take full ownership.
There are things that are not in your control. Weather, natural disasters, economy, other people but you can always prepare for the best and for the worst. Bad things will happen, you can’t control that, what you can control is your attitude. Take full responsibility, suck it up and do the right thing.

You have to believe in something.
Nothing is promised, nothing is true. You have to choose your side and believe in something. God, humanity, sports, art, politics, nature, education. Life gets hard, ugly and unfair. If you don’t believe in something you’ll be lost.

Fear is part of you and that is a good thing.
Your brain has evolved from lizard brain but that doesn’t mean it retired. In fact, it’s more active than ever. Every day it helps you survive, it stops you from doing stupid shit and ensures you live another day. It serves you. But to a certain extent. We, humans, have completely redesigned the world and the threats that our lizard brain sees doesn’t exist anymore. Notice when your lizard brain speaks and don’t let it stop you from expressing your opinion, pitching an idea, telling people what you think of them and most important creating art.

Do the work.
The only way you can let your talent out is doing the work. It will not be glamorous, it will not bring you the results right away, it will not make you any better or worse but eventually, it will get you where you want to be with your work. It takes time, you’ll sweat but that’s how you’ll earn respect from others and most important from yourself.

You get what you focus on.
If you victimize yourself and always blame others it continues. If you constantly complain, you only find more ways to complain. If you focus on eating healthy, you eat more veggies, drink more water, start moving and cut sugar. If you focus on writing, you read, you sketch, you write. If you focus on being a better friend, you make more calls, you listen, you put others first. You can’t focus on everything but focusing on nothing will get you nothing you want.

You need to listen to what is whispered to you.
You just got a new job but you hear someone’s whispering is not right for you. You just committed to a new project but a week into it someone whispers you it’s not worth it. You just moved to a new city and a month later someone whispers you it’s not what you need right now. You started working on a business idea and a year later someone whispers you it’s not for you. Listen to these whispers, whether it comes from within, environment, mentors, people you trust and anywhere else there might be something worth listening to and taking action.

People come and go.
Make sure you let the special ones know what they mean to you. Let them know they matter.

There will be times when life sucks.
Let it be. It has a lesson. Most of life is made of boring moments. No need to artificially be happy about it. If it sucks it sucks.

You don’t want to be alone.
It’s not that you are scared to be left alone, it’s just that when it’s all said and done, you want to be with someone. Someone to share the moment with. If you care and love each other it will feel even better.

You’ll inevitably make mistakes.
Again and again. It’s better you learn to make better mistakes.

Once again, you can’t please everyone.
You know it already but here is a reminder to mind your business. People yell at different things because they don’t have more important things to do. Stay in your lane. Give a damn about the things you care about. Giving a damn and pleasing people who don’t understand you is not a good thing to give a damn about.

The world is an amazing and horrible place.
It depends on how you look at it.

Write down your life principles.
Develop your personal protocol and follow it in order to lead a life without regrets. Once you have your list of non-negotiables your life becomes more aligned and meaningful.

Breathe.
Meditation is not just sitting in a lotus position and making weird sounds. It’s a mindful breathing and exercise for your brain. Your body doesn’t care about your fears, motivations and TV shows. It needs oxygen. Give more of it and your body will help you get what you want.

If you don’t challenge yourself you’re already dead.
Death is coming for you, sooner or later. Don’t die before you’re dead. Take chances. Challenge yourself, take calculated risks.

Change it up.
Living on a tropical island might look like an ideal life in paradise but it gets boring sooner than you can imagine. Then you need a buzzing city life, more hustle, more ambition. Same with everything else. Change food, routine, people you hang out with. You don’t have to keep it that way, just change it up from time to time to experience it fully, to appreciate things you take for granted.

Get dirty.
Go out and run in the rain, jump in the puddles, crawl in mud. Only then you feel alive, you feel how fun it is to play, only then you realize how fun it is to shower and lay in a clean bed while drinking tea and reading your favorite book.

Be yourself but don’t push other people by entering their personal space.
What you stand for and what you believe in is all about you. Never give up on these things.

Sometimes you need to get really cold to understand the meaning of warmth.
Same goes for love, money and purpose.

Having great relationships doesn’t mean chatting every day or every week.
It means caring and loving unconditionally and being there when the time comes.

Fear never goes away.
Whether it’s fear of darkness, height or being alone, you just get used to living with it. You get used to acknowledging it and doing the right thing anyway.

Do it for the love.
For the love of art, for the love of mastery, for the love of self-discipline. Views, likes, statistics can be altered. Do it for the love, not for the likes. If you don’t care about getting the credit, you do it for the love of the craft, when you stop caring about the credit you will feel incredible fulfillment just creating, expressing yourself and letting ideas out into the wild.

Welcome everyone with an open heart.
It’s hard at the beginning but with time you’ll get used to accepting people just the way they are. Let go of expectations and let people surprise you. Even people who hurt you can surprise you.

Every day you get to start over.
Paulo Coelho once said, “One day or day one. You decide.”

Blessed 2019 Full Of Blessings upon Blessings.

Work And Build Yourself.

Working with social media influencers

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Social media influencers are the new age and highly credible version of trendsetters. In fact, 70% of millennials prefer “peer” endorsement over celebrities when it comes to their buying decisions. And when you work with influencers that are a great match for your company, you’ll have a ready-made target audience available to market to. Plus, unlike celebrities, not all influencers are crazy expensive to partner with. This means that you should be able to afford one even if you don’t have the marketing budget of a Fortune 500 company. Therefore, teaming up with influencers is more pertinent and recommended than ever before.

To begin working with influencers, research the most relevant ones in your industry. Once you’ve made a list of potential leads, you should reach out to them and offer a plan for how the two of you can work together. This is when you will need to provide an incentive, whether that’s in the form of commission, free samples of your products, or an affiliate program. When contacting influencers, it’s best advised to not send dozens of friend requests and messages at once to ask for product endorsements, but rather taking your time to seek out and build authentic relationships with a few. This will work in your favor as it will allow the influencers to produce more organic and natural advertisements. Overall, as casual as the conversation might be, it’s still important to think of this as a B2B relationship. Influencers can be your literal “friends” on these platforms, but they are still a business partner that will help you to reach your social marketing goals

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

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I have always Been in long distance relationships, most of them by the way if not all of them and I Have learnt alot about the Long Distance Relationship compared to The Close Distance Relationship. Also After being Challanged by My ‘Crush’ who Resides on the Other Side of The World 😂 I Have decided to Speak Up for those who are Planning to Start this kind of Relationship.

So To Understand the two kinds of relationships then I have decided to try and differentiate between long distance relationship and close distance relationship and which is preferable, I have tried to illustrate the Two using Money and Saving 😂.

Long distance relationship is like keeping money in the bank for future purpose, you’ve given the bank permission to make use of your money for the mean time and you can never get the exact notes you kept when you need your money, the advantage is just that you will get your money when you need it remember it’s not the notes you kept but the ones deposited by another persons but the money have more value because it may take a while before you withdraw it for your needs.

While,

close distance relationship is like keeping money inside safebox (Home Banks ), you monitor your money yourself, you only have the access to open it when you need your money and you will get the exact notes you kept but it may not have value because the safebox itself is with you and you can break it just because you are broke and when you break it repeatedly, it becomes unsafe, then, if you keep your money, another person can steal some without you noticing and that’s worst because if you later finds out, you will stop using safebox and rather spending your money as you see it.

So, long distance relationship (keeping your Bae in a distance, forget anything that she may be doing or where she may be and get your Bae later when you are ready) or close distance relationship (keep your Bae close, when you are in the mood, fuck her and when you do that repeatedly, she becomes what you didn’t want her to be then you become bored with her then you Leave her/break up with her. Understood ?

The irrational need to possess our partner or jealousy towards other people in our partner’s life or the imagined people in it, can destroy any relationship. Long distance relationships are especially vulnerable to the onslaught of any actions based in a lack of self-confidence. You really need to believe in yourself; at least that you are or can be more desirable than anyone else around your partner. This attitude is helpful to have in any form of relationships; if you know who you are and see yourself in a fairly good light, then other people automatically see you there too. Good self-esteem is critical to a long distance relationship especially because of the fact that you do not in truth know what your partner is up to when you are not around. But again, this remains a reality even for those who live in the same home together too. So accepting that you honestly cannot control someone else is half the battle. The rest of it has to do with honesty, first to yourself, and then cultivating that in your partnership.

 

Ask the question: do I believe my special friend has my trust? If truthfully you can answer yes, then wonderful, you must be creating the right blend of communication that allows for spontaneity, honesty and intimacy to flourish in your relationship. If not, why? If not, is it because your partner has demonstrated that there may be other interests besides you? When that is true, then let the person meet or date other people as you get to know one another better. At some point your friend may discover you are more enjoyable to be with then any of the other folks around.

That is providing that you have not brow beaten your friend into a premature obligatory commitment – usually resulting in the other person thinking that they either have to keep other potential relationships a secret so not to offend or loose their partner’s interest or stay away from any kind of communication involving people in their local area especially someone of the same gender as or having similar characteristics to their lover. Placing these limitations on a partnership can inevitably leave the person socially frustrated, feeling lonely and sends a dangerous message that your partner is held way too accountable for your insecurities. Communicating that your partner must stay away from anyone that you deem a potential risk to the relationship will never produce the desired results in assuring your trust in that person. If anything, this displaced self-responsibility or “easy-out” solution will only sets up precedence for more dishonesty and distrust down the line furthermore harboring suspicion and breeding a ripe environment for more unpleasant secrets.

It’s obviously rare to accept this fact, but if you’ve not been in a long distance relationship and you are planning to get into one, then you should definitely be prepared for the worst.

You may conceive a factual rationale that it may start out wonderfully, yes your claims might hold authenticity, but eventually, it’s certain, things will go down hill not up hills as you may expect, which makes for some of the most difficult experiences ever. No matter how confident you are and how stubborn she is, it’s rare for it to hold grands and work out.

Am so so sorry for hitting you hard from the onset, i crave your indulgence, just read on.

In the western culture or any other part of the world, the cell phone is the cap imediator holding the sinking grands of long distance relationship. The relationship might appear to work from it basis with regular phone calls or the late night chats, but later on this could get really frustrating due to the repeative process with out visible atestable facial expression. This frustration a times leads to fight, which inturn leads to break-up alas.

Long distance relationship obviously required a lot of trust. Your significant other is in another place altogether. If you are some one who can’t trust the other person very easily but pretends to trust when speaking on phone call or through cyber space, then my friend, you’re goin to be suspicious about anything that happens at the other lane.

For example, if you call her repeatedly and she doesn’t answer your call, you will immediately jump to conclusion that she is cheating on you.

It’s also very very crucial to note that; the amount of anxiety in a distance relationship is maddening. You have no or less idea on what your loved one is doing on the other side of the phone. You have no idea on what he or she likes doing often, the friends he or she minggles with of cause humans are bound to be social, and all this makes the situation very dangerous and creates a high level of stress and anxiety.

One among the most essential things considered in relationship is the power of one on one proper communication. There is no proper communication in distance relationship. Text messages alone cannot serve, it cause alot of miscommunications.

There are times when humor could be mistaken for attitude while a serious message might be misread as sarcasm. They are just words on a screen which make it impossible to interpret the tone that the person who sent it was trying to convey.

I wanna end by saying, long distance relationship are played by far more problems than the gut-wrenching pain of seperation itself. In fact, research has shown that ‘distance’ isn’t the hardest part of a long distance relationship at all.

The real challenge implicit within the long distance relationship is the discrepancy between your expectations for the relationship and the reality of your current situation. It is within the “gap” between these dual ends of the long distance dynamic that all the long distance relationship problems vacillate.
Make a Good Choice and see what kind of Relationship best suits You.

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The Side Chick 😇

 

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Call her the other woman, the homewrecker, the mistress, the “thot”; I refer to her as the side-chick. You’ve seen her, dealt with her, dated her, hell, you’ve probably been her once or twice before. The side-chick is a complex individual whom no one ever takes a moment to understand. Most of us usually just write her off as “thirsty” or “pathetic.” In recent years, television has done its part in further examining this complicated woman. (See: “Scandal” or “Being Mary Jane”) The side-chick is not just the second option; she’s also a human being.
So A very beautiful friend of mine who happens to be A Side Chick tried to explain to Me what it is like to be A Side Chick the way they Think.

So here is her Explaination in a narrative Way. So this is her perception.

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‘My only involvement in infidelity has been as the victim. The closest I’ve ever gotten to be oming a side-chick was a couple years ago when my ex-boyfriend tried to spark something behind his girlfriend’s (who was the side-chick in our past relationship by the way) back. I turned him down; it was really hard to let go but I did. I could never share a man. That’s just not who I am. However, I admit that many times I’ve wondered what it would be like to keep such a steamy secret. How does it feel to be a guilty pleasure? I wondered if the side ever felt jealous of the main or did she find comfort in being the excitement to another woman’s man. I have many interesting types of friends. A few of my girlfriends are a bit more freethinking than I am in the love department. Some of my friends find nothing wrong with dating married men or men in committed relationships. And although they’re my girls, I still can’t co-sign with their choice of being the side-chick. Sometimes my disapproval is based on my sympathy for the poor clueless girlfriend but most times I just want my friend to respect herself.

After years of witnessing, experiencing and discussing the side-chick — and also a developed obsession with “Scandal” – I started to form some understanding of the side-chick psyche. I broke it down into 5 main thought processes. Keep in mind this is all hypothetical.

1. The Reason: It’s Innocent

Most times, it starts with just a flirty friendship. Both parties know where it will go but despite better judgement, they go forward. Innocent “friendships” and hang-out sessions rapidly snowball into an affair. The side-chick will say she meant no harm. Thus: “It just happened.”

2. The Addiction: Thrill and Desire

What keeps her engaged is that she is strongly desired. She is seen as danger, a thrill, a taboo pleasure. Who wouldn’t want to feel like that?

3. The Rationalization: Comfort & Denial

True, side-chicks can be heartless and there are many who have hidden agendas, like gold-digging. But not all are like that. Sometimes, these things happen out of poor judgment. At this stage, she may be either fearful of catching feelings or she may start to feel guilty. So she rationalizes: “If he really loves her then why is he coming home to me? Ha! I’m winning.” “I don’t care; he’s not my man anyway. I would never seriously date a cheater.” “He said he and his girl are about to break up. It’s not really cheating.” “We have something special. It’s so complicated! No one understands us but us!”

4. The Emotions: Hope & Jealousy

Things are getting hot and heavy. Oh no! She’s falling in love. Now, she is hoping that he’ll choose her as his main squeeze. Phone calls are now being made earlier than midnight. She is texting during the hours she knows he is with the girlfriend/wife. Instagrammed couple-photos are now a must. The demand for girlfriend treatment is rising.

5. The Fear: Please Don’t Leave Me!

For whatever reason, whether girlfriend #1 left and boyfriend resorted to the runner-up or the boyfriend actually chose side-chick over girlfriend #1, the side-chick has finally won her prize. No more secrets. She’s relieved and excited. She Instagrams the hell out of the relationship. All of her social media friends now know who “Him” is and why the constant statuses of love song lyrics. However, soon after the thrill is gone, the former side-chick starts wondering. Paranoia strikes. “Will he cheat on me like he did with me?” “How you get him is how you lose him, right?” “Who’s that bitch liking his photos?”

Like I said, this is just my theory. I can only say this is true for the side-chicks I’ve encountered and based on the stories I’ve been told.

 

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The BoyFriend She Wants..

imageSo She Read my Earlier most read blog LETTER to MY NEW GIRLFRIEND…. decided to do me a Reply 😂. So This Is How She Started…

I want a best friend. I want someone to laugh with. I want someone to go on adventures with.
I don’t want a storybook romance. I don’t want candlelight dinners or walks on the beach. I don’t want roses and wine.
I want to go to the batting cages. Let’s race go carts. Play putt putt golf. Let’s go on a drive with no destination. Or let’s stay in and build a blanket fort, order takeout and watch movies all night.
Take me on a picnic. Take me to your favorite place. Let’s take off for a weekend and go camping. Let’s drive four hours to see our favorite band play. Let’s go on a road trip. Or not. Let’s be spontaneous.
Introduce me to your friends.
Let’s stay up until 3AM talking about our dreams and our fears. Tell me your deepest secrets. I want to know your favorite color,(Do Men even know colours?) What food can you not stand to eat? Where do you most want to go in the world? I want to know everything there is to know about you. And I want you to know me.

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Couples Enjoying The Beach

Be the person I want to tell everything to. The person I fall asleep thinking about and wake up dreaming about.
I want someone to fight with. Someone to argue with about what to eat for dinner or what movie to watch. I want someone to tell me when I’m being overbearing and unreasonable.
But I also want you to tell me how beautiful I am. I want you to spoil me. Cook me dinner and rub my back after a long day. Kiss my forehead and tell me you care. Hug me tightly in your arms.
Comfort me when I need it most.
And let me do all those things for you. Let me be the shoulder you cry on. The ear you confide in. The arms that help you up. The hand that you hold.
I’ll be here for you on good days and bad. I want to laugh with you. I want to cry with you. Wipe away my tears and I will kiss away yours. Let me love you because I will love you more than anything in this world.
Mr. My Future Boyfriend are You There…? Are You Ready… to do what I Have Stated There..?
Am Waiting..!

So Guys Whats Your Take ..?

Why At Times You Have To Let Nice People Leave.

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Shot By Brian Umaka

People always say you can’t really explain why you feel a certain way about someone. Why you click with some people more than others or why you suddenly feel connected to a stranger. I feel like God brings us closer to certain people because these are the people we need in our lives right now. These are the people who will either teach us important lessons about life or about ourselves.
There’s a reason why God moves your heart toward a specific person and a reason why you get attached to certain people more than others. When I look back, there’s not one person I got really attached to who didn’t have something valuable to teach me or didn’t play a major role in my life. And the irony is, most of these people were temporary because their duty was to show me a different way and then set me free.
Sometimes the stage of your life determines what kind of people you attract and I think that’s the beauty of faith, God sends you the people you need at exactly the right time. He gives you the answers you were looking for through these people. He enlightens you by bringing you closer to people who bring out the best in you. He helps you when you’re struggling by pulling you closer to those who are capable of digging you out of your darkness.
It’s just that sometimes we try to turn these temporary people into forever people but that’s not their role. They’re not meant to stay in our lives forever. God called them to be there for us for only a short period of time. God called them to be in our lives so they can make us better for the ones who are meant to stay forever.
The problem is we become frustrated when these people leave because we can’t let go. We don’t understand why God would take away something so beautiful or someone who healed us but if you look at it from the perspective that if these people overstayed their welcome, their beauty will fade away, their love will die, their story will not be inspiring anymore and they will turn into a burden we’re not meant to carry, it will all start making sense.
The essence of letting go is faith. Faith that this story is better left the way it is. It’s better left the way God wrote it. Maybe rewriting it will ruin the story. Maybe changing it will not give you a happy ending. Maybe these people are angels sent to you to teach you a lesson or heal you or make you a better person and when their time is up, they fly away. They’re meant to be placed in someone else’s life.
Maybe these people are also teaching you how to let go, how to detach, how to realize when someone’s part in your story is over and have faith that the next person God brings you closer to is exactly who you need, even if you don’t know it yet.
Because I know that the day we meet the person who is meant to stay forever, we’d be able to spot them from a mile away, we’d recognize them in a crowded room because we finally understand the difference between someone who touches our hand and someone who touches our soul.mother_africa_2___ebore_girl_by_fairiesndreams-d5k397f