My self-esteem has never been as high as it’s been since I’ve been in a relationship and it’s simply because Stacy is constantly telling me how great she thinks I am.
It’s not that I didn’t think I was great before, but when someone’s constantly telling you, it gets to your head a little bit, I think that’s why she always calls me ‘kichwa kubwa’ 😂.
With that being said, it’s so important to reassure each other. Not just that you won’t cheat or leave each other, but also in who you guys are as people.
Let your partner know that you think they’re dope and why, complimenting here and there and Some examples could be:
Complimenting them on an aspect of their personality you think is admirable
Letting them know you’re proud of them
Giving reassurance that they are the only person you want
Complimenting their outfit, hair, or sense of style
Telling them how attractive you think they are
Thanking them for the little things
Not only is it simply romantic to feel like your partner genuinely thinks the world of you, but it also makes you feel secure in your position in the relationship, and in turn, more secure in yourself.
A healthy relationship should never feel like a distraction from your self-love, but an addition to it.
Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.
A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them close. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.